Strength to Endure

Lucy ran up to me the other day – asking me to open a toy we recently purchased. It was the type of toy that had 18 unnecessary zip and twisty-ties securing it to the cardboard package. Admittedly, I became frustrated trying to open the package – and Lucy, as she witnessed me struggling and eager to hug her Baby Alive doll, said: “of course you can do this. You’re my Dad!” Lucy made this statement with such certainty, and like many other statements my kids make, it compelled me to reflect on how important the role of a father is to our sons/daughters.

I immediately thought about how profound her statement was for me. It gave me a sense of pride – and reminded me that as a parent, I am such a large part of her universe. Her Mother, siblings and I have so much influence on her in different ways – and this beautiful life-form who depends on me to nourish, protect, educate and entertain her literally thinks I am a superhero. “You’re my Dad!” This statement has played on repeat in my mind, and were the exact words I needed to hear to adjust my mindset, as the general demands of trying to be an effective parent AND professional caught up to me in a major way earlier this year. For the first time in nearly 20-years, I hit an emotional wall/roadblock. I won’t get into the boring details – but I will express that, above all else, when I have been at my lowest, one or all of my kids will say or do something that reminds me of my purpose and gives me the strength to endure. This is combined with a partner who is the most amazing and supportive person I have ever met. I never knew I could love someone so much who I don’t share the same blood with. It’s a special feeling.

Lucy’s statement reminds me it’s not about me all of the time. When I feel frustrated – that is the time to engage more with family, not become distant and silent. It reminds me that a superhero can do anything – and since my daughters and son believe I am super-human, I will try my hardest to prove them right. And, if you’re a parent – never forget, that you’re a superhero to your children/child, too. Act accordingly.